some of the best lessons I've learned in life, the lessons that have stuck with me, weren't always the warm, cuddly, gentle encouragements. Sometimes I needed someone to smack me upside the head and tell me to get me *$*%&* together. At the time, I may have thought it was harsh or uncalled for. I may have thought I didn't deserve it. But looking back I realized it was exactly what I needed. The teachers that gave me the most flack are the ones that I look back at now with the most respect and gratitude (of course, I'm not talking about those that were verbally abusive). They were the ones who really cared about my future, and not what I thought about them at the time. You can't always take a stern answer and decide that person is just being a jerk. Sometimes it's what is necessary to ultimately teach someone how to fend for themselves. This industry isn't the cake walk that so many people seem to expect it to be, and being self-employed with tons of competition means you better be tough.
A good parent isn't one who always gives their kids everything they want or always coddles them. Sometimes it requires a firm hand, an unpopular decision, and strong words. If your kid is lazy, unmotivated, undisciplined, and thinks the world owes him everything wrapped in a pretty bow, then warm and encouraging doesn't cut it. They need a swift kick in the pants, just like some here need it. I'll bet many of us had one parent that was the sweet positive re-enforcer that we loved, and the other was the harder disciplinarian that we sometimes hated. But looking back as an adult we've now realized how they were really preparing us and looking out for our future and we've gained a respect for that person we didn't have at the time. So, I wouldn't discard the posters that are direct or sometimes harsh, or distinguish a good, bad, or excellent poster based on that. We need them all and you may find that the posters you discredited at one time, may be the ones that ultimately served your best interests. |
| Messages in this Thread |
|  What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - SueW/Tn on 6/3/06 1:46pm |
|  Re:One never forgets how someone made them feel! n/m -  LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 1:53pm |
| Re: Very well stated, I agree totally, but for those who are - Keisha_NC on 6/3/06 2:04pm |
| Re: What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - Ruby on 6/3/06 2:09pm |
|  Re: Ruby is that you in Running Springs? n/m - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 2:16pm |
| Re: What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - Brenda/CA on 6/3/06 2:50pm |
|  Re:Well said Brenda CA - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 3:05pm |
|  I respectfully disagree - janCA on 6/3/06 3:53pm |
|  hmmmmmm... - SueW/Tn on 6/3/06 4:08pm |
|  Re: hmmmmmm...yes HUMMMMMMMMM this has brought many - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 4:12pm |
 | I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - MichiganAl on 6/3/06 5:46pm |
| Re: I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - SueW/Tn on 6/3/06 6:12pm |
| Re: Sue so glad you began this thread, it has offered up - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 8:29pm |
| Re: I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - BrendaTx on 6/3/06 11:04pm |
| Re: I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - John_NorCal on 6/3/06 11:37pm |
| Re: What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - whitesatin on 6/3/06 10:09pm |
| Excellent discussion, Sue and everyone =) - ReneeK_MI on 6/4/06 6:54am |
| Re: Excellent discussion, Sue and everyone =) - whitesatin on 6/4/06 2:22pm |
| Re: Excellent discussion - Renee is an excellent writer and - BrendaTx on 6/4/06 3:35pm |
| You are also correct Renee' - getting windy & OT aren't we? - Anonymous from 24.250.160.59 on 6/4/06 3:28pm |
| I wish I knew who you were, because this post is brilliant. n/m - MichiganAl on 6/4/06 6:52pm |
| Re: I wish I knew who you were, because this post is brilliant. - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/4/06 8:13pm |
| I wasn't really trying to figure it out... - MichiganAl on 6/4/06 10:01pm |
| ah, but compassion does not a patsy make ... - ReneeK_MI on 6/5/06 4:34am |
