I feel sorry for his wife - if treated you the way he did, can you imagine how he treats her?!
How you say things can make a difference in whether or not you are perceived as being in charge. Did you say, "May I see your driver's license?" or "Pease take out your driver's license; as a notary I need to see the original and record some information from it". If he had given me "lip" that the other notary had not asked that he do so, I would have answered, "I am not the other notary; we are required to do so, and I go by the book."
If he had still given me trouble, I would have said, "It is my job as a Notary Signing Agent to get the loan documents signed. If you don't want to cooperate, then I will call the lender to tell him that we are going to adjourn and the loan will not close, because you are not willing to hand me your driver's license." I do not think that there would be a problem after that.
This reminds me of teaching my daughter, when she was young, how to order food in a restaurant. She would say, "May I have . . . ", and I told her the waiter doesn't decide IF she
can have something, I do, he is just taking her order. I taught her to say, "I would like . . . ".
I think that women, particularly, need to work at coming from strength and being in charge as society tends to teach girls/women to be deferential. |
