*I also understand the freedom of others and realize my post will be taken as a bird in a guilded cage, "Dorothy over the rainbow" type acceptance. Unfortunately I too am a realist and know that you can't change popular thoughts although I most respectfully submit that there are just a few that feel it necessary to pick up the riding crop and demolish another.*
No, Sue, you are absolutely correct in your assessment. Being objective in statements here where others are concerned is correct. However, even being objective yields name calling to helpful people.
A helpful statement like, "You really need to get clear on what you can do as a CA notary." is often taken as mean when it is meant to be the best advice available for that person. Names are called back at the helper. Others sweep in to protect the weeping "wounded."
I remember once long ago that Sylvia told a woman to get a laser printer in order to appear more professional and ready to work and the woman blasted her. It was excellent advice.
A forum is not exactly like real life. I cannot imagine that happening in a class room taught by Sylvia.
The "reality" I see here is that the more sensitive of us put way too much weight on the "feelings" of the posters. Unless posters already have a problem with their egos which is really serious, they shut off their browsers and go do "real life" and give it little thought. If they have true ego problems perhaps getting off the forums where life is unkind is the best plan for them - and believe me, this is a really NICE community compared to more brutal places like Amazon's forum, or unmoderated Geek forums.
Now, please don't go crazy everyone and say I am being mean....I am just thinking out loud here and considering how much importance is placed on the other end. We sit here and hash it out daily on who hurt whose feelings while *the Who* who got hurt is ten miles down the road talking smack to someone else.
The first time I queried a geek forum about a virus problem I was told if I not such a dumbshi__ who downloaded porn all day then I would not have a porn dialer on my computer.
Now...did I go nutty? No! Of course not. I had already read through the forum and found out that a person who could hold their own might find some respect in the forum...so I posted back that my new friend could be right but I had no yen for porn being a grandmother and all. Perhaps he was not quite the guru he apparently hoped to seem...did anyone know that for sure? Could someone else help? Then, we got down work. It was a good experience.
He became quite an interesting correspondent.
If you want help you have to be brave enough to take it. If not, you really cannot seek help and remain in tact emotionally with a very anonymous group which is unmoderated.
This is a new frontier. It is not group therapy. However, for those who are needing tlc, the SigningRegistry.com is the place to be. I have asked Harry if I can mention the SR and he says I can. So...any new person who needs help, the signingregistry.com will give you ALL the help YOU COULD EVER NEED! It's private and people cannot read anything you post without being a member there.
What is said in the SR stays in the SR. |
| Messages in this Thread |
|  What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - SueW/Tn on 6/3/06 1:46pm |
|  Re:One never forgets how someone made them feel! n/m -  LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 1:53pm |
| Re: Very well stated, I agree totally, but for those who are - Keisha_NC on 6/3/06 2:04pm |
| Re: What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - Ruby on 6/3/06 2:09pm |
|  Re: Ruby is that you in Running Springs? n/m - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 2:16pm |
| Re: What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - Brenda/CA on 6/3/06 2:50pm |
|  Re:Well said Brenda CA - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 3:05pm |
|  I respectfully disagree - janCA on 6/3/06 3:53pm |
|  hmmmmmm... - SueW/Tn on 6/3/06 4:08pm |
|  Re: hmmmmmm...yes HUMMMMMMMMM this has brought many - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 4:12pm |
| I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - MichiganAl on 6/3/06 5:46pm |
| Re: I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - SueW/Tn on 6/3/06 6:12pm |
| Re: Sue so glad you began this thread, it has offered up - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/3/06 8:29pm |
 | Re: I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - BrendaTx on 6/3/06 11:04pm |
| Re: I agree with a few of your points, BUT... - John_NorCal on 6/3/06 11:37pm |
| Re: What is a good poster vs. an excellent poster? - whitesatin on 6/3/06 10:09pm |
| Excellent discussion, Sue and everyone =) - ReneeK_MI on 6/4/06 6:54am |
| Re: Excellent discussion, Sue and everyone =) - whitesatin on 6/4/06 2:22pm |
| Re: Excellent discussion - Renee is an excellent writer and - BrendaTx on 6/4/06 3:35pm |
| You are also correct Renee' - getting windy & OT aren't we? - Anonymous from 24.250.160.59 on 6/4/06 3:28pm |
| I wish I knew who you were, because this post is brilliant. n/m - MichiganAl on 6/4/06 6:52pm |
| Re: I wish I knew who you were, because this post is brilliant. - LkArrowhd/CA on 6/4/06 8:13pm |
| I wasn't really trying to figure it out... - MichiganAl on 6/4/06 10:01pm |
| ah, but compassion does not a patsy make ... - ReneeK_MI on 6/5/06 4:34am |
