|I had a somewhat similar situation last night, but there were a few critical differences. It was also for a couple who got married in the past year or so, but her lack of acceptable ID wasn't for lack of trying. She'd applied for a name change, but still hadn't received all the paperwork she needed to take to the DMV to get a new ID because of delays due to Covid. Fortunately, the lender and title co were already in the loop, so they'd already made arrangements to have two Credible Witnesses available, and I was able to proceed without issue.|
BTW, one other possibility no one mentioned for the situation described in the original post is that someone was trying to pull a fast one... It does make you wonder why someone wouldn't change her ID after 30 years, although many women choose to keep their maiden names for professional reasons. What I don't understand, though, is why they use their husband's name anyway. Just for fewer questions? I don't know.
Having said that, I have an old friend who has done that very thing. She's someone with some clout and influence and is proud of her family name. I only learned about this when we met for lunch one time she was in town and she asked me to notarize something for her. The document had her maiden name and husband's name hyphenated, which she has been using for ages, but she never had it legally changed and didn't have his name on her DL. (She didn't explain why and I didn't press it.)
She figured I'd be perfect to handle this, since I was at her wedding and knew her to be the person named in the document. Unfortunately, that was after personal knowledge was eliminated as a form of satisfactory evidence in California requiring everyone to provide proper ID. When I explained that, she said "No problem, I'll just get my attorney to do it." I don't have any doubt that her attorney would do anything she wants... But also I can't imagine her being rude or trying to intimidate a notary...