Posted by laurie on 4/21/05 10:18am
Msg #33093

Another question for you...please...

I have another question for you....

What (and why) is the fingerprinting and inspections? Some of the notaries I'm in contact with around my town have never done any of these either.

And one last thing (at least for today) to ask...how do I get into doing title searches? Training? Schooling? What does it involve? I want to learn all of these things... my kids are getting bigger, and don't need me (as much), so I'm wanting to do more part-time things and still be available for my kids if they need me.

Reply by Terri - CA on 4/21/05 10:28am
Msg #33099

As a mom of a now 25 1/2 year old, believe it or not, while you may not think you need to be there "because they're getting older," that's a myth. You need to be much more around and available while they go through High School. Because if you're not around, that's when they get into trouble. Yep they'll complain (mine did). But only a year out of high school, mine came to me, put his arms around me and said thanks for being on my case and being there. He went on to explain that many of his school mates (whose parents weren't around) were into drugs, became teenage parents and many went to jail for various reasons. He said was very glad he had a mom that cared and loved him enough to be there.

Yes, being there during their high school years is very important.

Oh, about the other stuff, I'll have to let someone else answer

Terri
Lancaster, CA

Reply by laurie on 4/21/05 10:44am
Msg #33108

Yes, I agree....first and foremost, I am a MOTHER, then a wife (he has a mother that I can't stand...but thats another story LOL), then a notary. But I still need the adult contact and having to use my brain again (I didn't work out side the home for 10 years), and this is so very interesting to me. I used to be at the school all the time, volunteering, etc., but I think my kids are tired of seeing me there.

But thanks for the advice, I will take it and use it wisely, and hope my kids will someday say the same to me.

Reply by Terri - CA on 4/21/05 10:56am
Msg #33120

Absolutely you need adult contact! I would just hate for anyone to have their work come before their children at a critical point in their lives. If being a Notary/Signing Agent allows you both the contact that you need and the ability to be there for your children, I think that's great.

I worked full-time while my son was in high school. I was lucky, had a great boss who allowed me to work around my son's Marching Band (I was a Booster ) schedule. So I know it can be done! It's hard work and a big commitment. Just so many parents these days, I see, that have teenagers, think that they can back off being a parent with the kids in high school, when just the reverse is true!

Now my son lives 4 hours away, and I miss him! But I'm so proud of him!

Terri
Lancaster, CA

Reply by ColleenCA on 4/21/05 10:47am
Msg #33112

Re: Another question for you...please...Terri

Boy, you are so right. We have two teenage sons ages 17 and 15. I work from home and have for a very long time. It is so important to be around and keep tabs on them and their friends. I don't get any complaints from them about it at all. They are in a band together, the oldest plays guitar and the youngest plays the drums. Needless to say, their friends are here all the time and it is great! Both of them have already told us they feel lucky compared to many of their peers in the fact that they have a safe, caring, loving family to come home to, when so many of their friends have family problems. We have also been told that if it wasn't for the kind of parents that we are, that they probably would have tried some things that they shouldn't, but they knew how much it would disappoint us. What a heart warmer that was!

Reply by Anonymous on 4/21/05 2:51pm
Msg #33161

Re: Another question for you...please...Terri

Colleen, you are AWESOME, and I certainly could learn from you! Your attitude, when you were given completely unsolicited parenting advice, is so admirable. I would have said something like, "Kiss off! What the heck makes you a parenting expert, and WHO THE HECK ASKED YOU ABOUT THAT!" But not you! You just calmly replied about your own experience. Geez! My hat is off to you! You are really good! I hope things go GREAT for you!!!