Posted by Anonymous on 6/30/06 1:59pm
Msg #130044

Message129912-Brendatx

I read your message and finally understood your behaviour on some of the threads-Particularly towards me (bashing)Not that I care .I always stood strong and does not follow! The fact that you had to rely on cyber friends to pull you through your difficult times in your life,says a lot about how your are living your life. Not having your family and real friends support you in times of need, I would suggest re-evaluation of your current life.Real people in your life will treat you according to the way you treat them. Stop your make believe world and treat those around you (real people)family and friends with respect and the same will be bestowed upon you. Remember when you get sick and need real people to help out,having cyber friends alone will not be of any help! Do not bother replying,I am getting off here before I too can not distinguish the difference between real life and cyber. I am not going to go nuts!Good luck!!

Reply by hcampersFL on 6/30/06 2:04pm
Msg #130046

Brenda don't even bother to read this bile. n/m

Reply by MistarellaFL on 6/30/06 2:08pm
Msg #130049

Plea to Harry

You so eloquently and fairly warned this person.
I wish you would put an end to it.
Everyone else seems to be trying to honor your request/rules/regs
except this particular poster.
Thanks.

Reply by Brenda/CA on 6/30/06 3:01pm
Msg #130099

Re: Plea to Harry

I agree with Mistarella on this Harry, please end the "Anon" handle so these uncalled for attacks will stop. They are mainly directed at the veterans of this board, who have helped many people here. I beleive the anons feel jealous because they aren't receving some kind of attention to feed their cyber egos. These gutless wonders will not post trash like this if their cloak of anonymity is stripped away, and they have no where to hide.

Reply by Laura Upton on 6/30/06 2:09pm
Msg #130050

whomever this is, i just wanted to say this post was not necessary. if you knew who brendatx was; and you were her friend, whether it be thru a 'cyber' friendship or a 'real life' friendship, you would know her story. unfortunately, instead you choose to bash her, without proper info. I am sorry that you felt you really needed to do this; as you indicate in your msg that you dont care. apparently you do, or you wouldnt have posted anonymously. please take some time to reconsider posting hurtful things; as you apparently need to also "learn to treat those around you with some respect. "

this is exactly the kind of post that Harry is talking about Ladies and Gents that are unnecessary uncalled for personal attacks. If someone is going to attack someone, at least have the kahunas to put your name where your mouth is.

Reply by Anonymous on 6/30/06 2:15pm
Msg #130058

Re: Message129912-Brendatx-Laura

What about her bashing?

Reply by MistarellaFL on 6/30/06 2:17pm
Msg #130061

As long as we continue to respond to her, she will continue

this nonsense.
I ask that we ignore her, and let Harry deal with her.

Reply by Laura Upton on 6/30/06 2:18pm
Msg #130062

Re: As long as we continue to respond to her, she will conti

will do.

Reply by Laura Upton on 6/30/06 2:20pm
Msg #130064

Harry, Please can we get something done?

Harry,

I do hope that the responses to your untolerable behavior messages I and II have given you some insight to what the professional members of the board would like.

I look forward to your decisions regarding the issues you posted and asked for our opinions on.

thank you.

Reply by hcampersFL on 6/30/06 2:21pm
Msg #130065

Mistarell and Laura. What good friends you are!

I should only hope for friends like you two, in cyberspace or right next door!
Have a great weekend and Happy Signings to you both!
Beverly

Reply by Laura Upton on 6/30/06 2:23pm
Msg #130066

Re: Mistarell and Laura. What good friends you are!

Ms. Beverly,

Thank you! you have a wonderful 4th! I will be in Boston, enjoying the Pops and the fireworks show with my boys on VACATION! I hope when i return in a week, that the issues on the board will have worked themselves out either thru Harry or thru some growing up over the weekend.

Have a Great 4th of July and remember all our Defenders of Our Freedom wherever they may be on the Fourth! God Bless, Laura

Reply by MistarellaFL on 6/30/06 2:24pm
Msg #130068

Amen to that Laura. Enjoy! n/m

Reply by Laura Upton on 6/30/06 2:31pm
Msg #130071

Re: Amen to that Laura. Enjoy!

Thanks Mistarella, and you have a wonderful 4th as well! laura

Reply by Jahari Davis on 6/30/06 2:46pm
Msg #130083

Ok Anon, since you dont want Brenda to reply, I will. I'll start by letting you in on a little secret...you're an ass!!! Cyber friends are real friends!!! There are fake people in real just as there are in cyber but if your lucky you'll find the best in both worlds. Who are you to judge Brenda, much less anyone else about the reliance on friends, family, and associates. You dont know anything about her or anyone else on this board. And, you post in the closet. Come on out and post so that we can see who you are. At least there are those that post with their names even if they dont include a link to their profile. Its Anons like you that make it hard for other legit Anons with legit questions. I can tell you, Brenda is one of those people that are like gravity. She draws people to her and they genuinely like and respect her. I am glad to include her in my "people circle" and to be one among those the like and respect her, her business sense, and her compassion and talent for reaching out in a time of need for someone that needed it. She and I may not agree with every single solitary thing, but I respect her. She's the real deal.

Reply by cyndi_ca on 6/30/06 2:52pm
Msg #130084

Great post Jahari. n/m

Reply by cyndi_ca on 6/30/06 2:52pm
Msg #130085

You haven't fallen out of your chair have you? :-) n/m

Reply by Jahari Davis on 6/30/06 2:58pm
Msg #130096

Re: You haven't fallen out of your chair have you? :-)

Nope, but I think some others will. I mean this was a blatant, and stupidly senseless attack on Brenda for doing absolutely nothing but giving a damn and helping people out if and when they needed it. Way I see it, this Anon is lucky I dont have my old apps to flood IP addresses killing their net connection.

Reply by AngelinaAZ on 6/30/06 3:07pm
Msg #130102

What a bummer!

I'm sure you could find a way to put that thing to VERY GOOD USE!

Reply by cyndi_ca on 6/30/06 3:13pm
Msg #130105

Had to laugh Jahari, this time you

were spot on. Kudos, my brother.

Reply by JO_PA on 6/30/06 2:54pm
Msg #130089

Re: I agree!!!!! n/m

Reply by JO_PA on 6/30/06 2:57pm
Msg #130091

Re: I agree with Jahari's post.. n/m

Reply by Laura Upton on 6/30/06 2:58pm
Msg #130094

Re: I agree with Jahari! Thumbs up Jahari! giggle..... n/m

Reply by hcampersFL on 6/30/06 2:58pm
Msg #130095

Jahari this is the kind of Ranting I can get behind!

Good for you for showing what a class act you are. I respect that.
Beverly

Reply by AngelinaAZ on 6/30/06 3:01pm
Msg #130098

Well said Jahari! n/m

Reply by BrendaTx on 6/30/06 4:06pm
Msg #130118

Re: Message129912-Brendatx - You're one of the peeps in

my circle, too, man.

Thank you all in this thread. All the good peeps need to stick together.


(Pssst....Jahari, did I use *peeps* right that time?)

Reply by AngelinaAZ on 6/30/06 2:58pm
Msg #130093

To BrendaTX...

I certainly hope that you don't let the ignorant trash directed at you get to you in the least. You are dealing with someone who is extremely jealous and wants to tear you down. This kind of person is the kind I warn my kids to stay away from... yikes. You know the kind... they are nice only when they think they can get something from you and if you don't give them the glorified attention they think they deserve or you don't let them use you... then WHAMMO... you are dealing with Psycho Sister!

Who cares.... they spew garbage because it's all they have inside.

You are the busiest gal I know... and you have taken the time to help so many people. I seriously don't know how you have any time at all between your 'How To' stuff, your newsletters, your mentoring, your marketing, your signings and your backyard BBQ's (not to mention the numerous calls you must get daily from people asking for help). You are awesome and you don't need me to tell you that. You put yourself out there and when you do... there is always going to be some LOSER who will want to make something bad out of everything you do and say. When I see posts like this I am reminded of the pictures on the cover of the Enquirer of a celebrity drinking a glass of Champagne at an afternoon brunch with friends and the words ALCOHOLIC???? DRUG REHAB IS NEXT!! are printed underneath.

There are few people in life that will take a personal thing that is disclosed and then twist it around to bash you over the head with it. They are poison... inside and out. This person has no inner strength or self-esteem at all... it is kind of a sad thing to watch.

Angelina

Reply by MistarellaFL on 6/30/06 7:30pm
Msg #130155

An apropos quote I heard today:

"No one cares how much you know,
until they know how much you care"
Charles Swindall

Brenda, you have more friends here than you know.

Reply by BrendaTx on 6/30/06 7:48pm
Msg #130158

Re: An apropos quote I heard today:

**"No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care" Charles Swindall
Brenda, you have more friends here than you know.** I know who Chuck is! Thank you very much. You're all right for a Hairy Godmother...the best.

Reply by Anonymous on 6/30/06 11:29pm
Msg #130203

Re: An apropos quote I heard today:Brother!

Jahari, you are being called brother now! Ah-ha you made it!You're in! As I said pshycology interets me tremendousl! Congrats to you.

Reply by Laura Upton on 7/1/06 11:12am
Msg #130241

Re: An apropos quote I heard today:Brother!

PSYCHOLOGY. Please learn to spell, especially if you are going to keep using the word.

Reply by SarahBeth_CA on 6/30/06 3:43pm
Msg #130114

You Hoooooo Harry

The original post is a pure and utter hatefull personal attack. It is extemely rare that I think that a post should be deleted. But this most definately calls for it. You made your warnings please stop the garbage.

Reply by TitleGalCA on 6/30/06 8:05pm
Msg #130165

Thanks BrendaTX for being you

I love your input here...your writing skills, your observations, and your graciousness. The random act of kindness in posting a request about Lil Bit is completely in line with who you are. Everyone here is benefitted by your "Notary Rotary Addiction".

Thanks, my friend.

Reply by BrendaTx on 6/30/06 8:35pm
Msg #130170

Re: Thanks BrendaTX for being you (:>) n/m

Reply by Becca_FL on 6/30/06 8:46pm
Msg #130173

>>>Remember when you get sick and need real people to help out,having cyber friends alone will not be of any help!<<<

I think Sylvia, Bruce and Little Bit will disagree with thsi point. I know I do.

Reply by BrendaTx on 6/30/06 9:27pm
Msg #130183

Re: Message129912-Brendatx - Becca -

I know that so well.

I have my support system in real time, but I don't dog them to death all the time with being a Debbie Downer and making every occasion a focus on ME.

My loss occurred on 11-28. Two and three weeks later, I made myself go to two Christmas parties we had been invited to...I made an appearance, smiled a lot, listened to some stories, and told a joke or two, then excused myself at the appropriate time to stop any bad vibes from settling on the guests. It's just what you do when your friends have holiday parties and need to see you "out there" and I did it that first year so they would not worry unnecessarily...I wanted my good friends to know I was okay.

But, like learning as much as possible about the notary work we do as NSA's some things you just have to do alone. I found myself in this somewhat self-imposed isolated situation I speak of b/c my husband killed himself. Now, say what you want to but after the shock wears off people are freaked out by that and treat you like a pariah...they are either asking you something stupid like "Why did he do that?" or they avoid you because they don't know what to say. It's not their fault. It's just a rotten little fact of life that happens in places all over the USA.

Now, I could either MAKE them listen to me ruminate on the why's, or I could deal with it alone and I did just that. If I had gotten into a "support" group it would have been a downer for me. I wanted to live, not wallow in self-pity.

I "used" my friends/family sparingly and cautiously so that when I called them they were glad as heck to hear from me and that I was getting better each day. I worked on my education for awhile and sold books while the market was hot. Then, I ran into this accidently and realized it was cut out for me and it was time for me to find something I really cared about. I found this forum and my notary work, and I kept my mind busy. I don't recommend taking the loner route to deal with grief for everyone. It is the way of the people I come from and our strength. What better way to pass on faith, hope and strength to my son than to let him see me take a lickin' and keep on tickin' so his life was least interrupted by worrying about me. Coming unwound was not an option.

I got myself busy and got a life that did not focus on death, poor me and sympathetic outpourings to band-aid me.

A lot of my recovery and coming back to caring about life was you guys...for a long time no one knew about this except maybe CaliNotary. I told him b/c I knew he'd NOT react with sympathy. I did not want that. That's what people don't get about him. He's not an enabler, he expects people to deal with disappointment and move on. I do, too. I just say it differently.

But, then sometimes I realized that people thought I started out with a perfect life...I realized that people thought I just like stepped out of the box all shiny and put together in this notary world...no...no...it was not like that at all. Absolutly not. Starting over from the bottom is tough after forty, but it can be done.

The point is, we all have life difficulties. It's what we do with them is the measure of our lives. I tell these things about myself because it's a long road I have been on and I am so dang glad to see it end. I just want people to know "hey, hang in there...no matter what crappy thing happens, you can make it." If that bothers an anonymous poster that I am grateful to the cyberfolk, well...darn it.

Reply by Rebecca Fair on 6/30/06 10:20pm
Msg #130190

Re: Message129912-Brendatx - Becca -

Life sure does suck at times. I'm sure glad I have you to call when life gets really sucky for me. You are a good friend to have, Brenda. You know how much I really do care about you. I'm glad you were able to find your niche by helping others. Lord knows you've helped me a ton!

Now for me - Life is good. We're in Miami and have been rained on just once. We met up with our friends and had a wonderful dinner in Key Biscane.

Honey is singing "Moon over Miami" to me, as we speak. Tonight, I have a $20 million view. We love our floating mobile home.

Keep doing what you're doing.