Posted by AngelinaAZ on 3/7/06 5:23pm
Msg #103001

Entitlement!

Does anybody feel like there is too much of this going around the board lately? People act like they automatically deserve information, respect and the keys to success...

My son had a birthday party with a pinata (I crammed that sucker with candy) and a few of the kids that were too scared to dive in the madhouse or didn't want to get dirty didn't end up with very much candy. I had an extra bag set aside (for me! don't tell!) and I gave both of them a few extra pieces in their goody bags because they didn't get as much. The mother of the one that didn't want to get dirty walks up to me and in the most scathing tone tells me that I should have pre-bagged the candy so that every kid got an equal amount. In fact she pointed to my extra bag and said that I should make sure that her child got an EXACT EQUAL AMOUNT! I, of course... in my usual manner... flash her my very biggest smile... toss her a sucker... and yell for the kids to join me for cake and ice cream.

Since when in life does ANYBODY pre-bag the candy? Aren't we setting the wrong example if we allow people to go through life expecting an equal share if they are not willing to get into the mess and scrap for it? I don't know about you but my kids are not going to grow up on the sidelines of life expecting that if they wait there... somebody will toss them a pre-bagged equal share of success!

Reply by Charles_Ca on 3/7/06 5:43pm
Msg #103014

Re: Entitlement! I couldn't agree with you more!

I've posted on the entitlement subject a few times. Life is a challenge, work is a challenge here is no such thing as a free lunch. It is unfortunately but the politically correct and the educational establishment want to teach the kids that every one is equal and every opinion counts. There used to be time when success was revered and intelligence a desirable attribute. There when people gave considered opinions and there were stupid questions and opinions that had no merit. Now equality is the desired goal. for everybody to be equal we must make everybody meet the lowest common denominator and that is going to be a very boring, uneventful, world that will takes up back to the stone age. Oops, wait even then there was someone with a bigger club. Equality is an unrealistic fantasy.

Reply by Julie/MI on 3/7/06 5:52pm
Msg #103019

Since so much on the forum has become primarily off topic material, I may as well add my 2 cents. (However, I don't want my birthday added to "the list) for a notaryrotary birthday greeting, with over 4 years on these boards I've managed this far without a daily good morning or birthday greeting).

That mother would HATE my children's birthday parties, because I don't give out goodie bags to the guests.

I have a few games and not everyone is a winner, so if you win at musical chairs, you receive a prize, if not, maybe next time.

This worked when I was a child. This everybody is a winner stuff is becoming over the top.

Same stuff for these brides that have lived on their own for years and think a shower HAS to happen or have the nerve to ask for a $$ contribution to the honeymoon. No class, everyone thinks they are entitled.

Reply by Shar_PA on 3/7/06 6:13pm
Msg #103027

Re: Entitlement!-Amen!!!

Had a similar situation when my daughter was in 1st grd escept daddy threw the gissy fit !!That type of attitude seems to run rampid and it ibviously not gender specific!! Sad to say, many kids grow up with parents like that!

Reply by Shar_PA on 3/7/06 7:40pm
Msg #103063

Re: pls excuse typing -results of hand injry n/m

Reply by Becca_FL on 3/7/06 7:09pm
Msg #103055

Re: Entitlement! Amen sister... n/m

Reply by celeste/ca on 3/7/06 7:28pm
Msg #103061

Re: Entitlement! Amen sister...

That mom must have been a soccer mom with AYSO. I equate this with sports because I grew up playing sports, and you strove to be the best, and try to win that first place trophy. Nowadays, everyone is entitled to a trophy. Gone are the days of teaching these children that you have to work hard to come in first and be rewarded. It is now expected, everyone receives the same prize. It is okay for there to be winners and losers, it makes people try harder to succeed!

Reply by JudyinLa on 3/8/06 3:25pm
Msg #103332

Re: Entitlement! Amen sister...

I guess this little outburst is for me?

Reply by SatomiCO on 3/8/06 3:47pm
Msg #103348

Re: I didn't see any names mentioned ...

didn't you get any candy from a pineda either?

Reply by AngelinaAZ on 3/8/06 7:10pm
Msg #103409

Actually Judy...

This outburst was for me. I don't read many of your posts so only you will know if it applies to you. If you are someone that walks through life expecting to get things without earning them... then I guess the shoe fits... if not... then ignore it! If I would have directed it to you... it would have said JUDY... 'cause that's just the way I do it!

Reply by Brijoe_WA on 3/7/06 8:22pm
Msg #103070

Re: Amazing these people get by...

I do give out goody bags at my kids parties, however, only when they are leaving and usually they have the loudest, most obnoxious, party horn EVER!! I give them out at the end, so that no one can compare what is in them (and so that I don't have to listen to the horns!)

At my middle daughters last party, a little girl refused to play the games and when I gave a prize to the winner, she begged me for one. I told her, No, you will get one in your goody bag at the end...The LONG & Short...she would not let it go. She ended up in tears and pouted in our office for 1/2 hour. THANKFULLY, her mom was very cool and said "Tough Beans for her!"

So, to all of you who feel Entitled "Tough BEANS!"

Reply by Jenny_CA on 3/7/06 8:45pm
Msg #103074

Re: I would probably get on your nerves....

I give out goody bags never include candy and also include games for the grown ups. This year it was so funny to see my third grader's teacher fence against my husband.

On Monday my daughter took her piggy bank to class and donated the contents to Pennies for Patients, she did this on her own. I don't think she's being spoiled rotten.

When she was younger everyone received a prize at the 7 and 8 yr. parties there was competition I felt that the children at that age could now be mature enough to handle win or losses. My 4yr. will have "awesome" ( as they called them" goody bags again.

Reply by Bonnie_CO on 3/7/06 9:40pm
Msg #103086

My thoughts exactly!

Some parents act younger than the kids they are having fits about~ !
Always, when any of my kids have told me "that's not FAIR" I tell them, " Since when have I EVER told you life was fair? " They know I tell them life isn't fair, and you have to fight ( so to speak) for what you want, you have to stay at the top of your game because there will always be someone that comes along that will challenge you, there can't be 2 winners.

Last year there were 2 girls that go to the HS out here that rolled thier car on the curve here by our house, brand new car, I was working outside and seen the accident, I could hear them long before I could see them, it was determined they were doing 90 in a 45 and lost control on the curve, luckily both girls walked away. I got pissed when the cop asked the girl driving if she was involved in an accident 3 mos earlier in a different car and she said, "yes, but my parents bought me a new car then and they will buy me a new car again!" I was thinking what a little snot she was and how someone needed to knock some common sense into her parents! She had a definate "everybody OWES me!" attitude!