Posted by notary_nc on 3/28/06 8:51am
Msg #109017

GRATEFUL "NEWBIE"... (& mini-vent)

Just an FYI-As someone new to this biz, I am EXTREMELY grateful for some of the ideas, experiences and advice that I read in these posts. For those of you who have done this for a while- your expertise really helps clarify a lot for us new kids! THANKS!

For Mistarella and those "old heads" who think they know it all- just because you have been around since the beginning of DIRT- don't act like you're doing anyone a favor. I had posted a BIG THANK YOU to those who helped me with an issue yesterday and Mistarella had the gall to comment that "..it isn't rocket science.." and "..common sense isn't common.." It just shows Mistarella's own ignorance at the fact that there are people who don't desire to give this biz a bad name- they want to do it right . Mistarella aslo commented that "... we (newbies).. had this false sense of entitlement and expectation..." WHAT? Just because I want someone to pay me for a service rendered- I have a ".false...sense of entitlement.."? As with any new venture- it takes practice, patience and good mentors. On a side note- Mistarella also commented about people's educational background-- As a notary, you took a test that every other notary on your state took. Whether they dropped out of high school or have a PhD, they did EXACTLY what you did- they passed the notary exam. Educational background does not dictate how good a SA you have the potential to become. EXPERIENCE does.

Mistarella, just because you were around when fire was invented , doesn't make you the ONLY expert on anything hot! Get over yourself and leave the boards to people who really WANT to help! By the way-- it wasn't YOU who gave me great advice and good support- so don't be so quick to toot your own horn.

Reply by Beth/MD on 3/28/06 9:04am
Msg #109021

Re: What a hateful tantrum.

I'm sorry you feel that Mistarella and those "old heads" have it in for you and any other "newbie". I must say, I find lots of helpful information and wise comments from many of those "around when fire was invented." I owe my business to those that have shared their insights, experiences, and even their vents "since the beginning of dirt."

Reply by Jersey_Boy on 3/28/06 9:40am
Msg #109031

Re: What a hateful tantrum.

I would think that anyone that's "been around since the beginning of dirt" would be retired by now. Gosh, I'd hate to still be working if I was that old.

Don't pass that idea around too much, jeez... if that idea gets into the hands of Congress, I'll have to wait until I am 700 years old before I can collect my first Social Security check.

Reply by SarahBeth_CA on 3/28/06 9:43am
Msg #109033

Read a little before posting when new to the boards.

If you would have went one page back to the original thread and read Mistarella's reply you would have seen that it was clearly stated that the post wasn't directly to you. But no you started a new thread instead. Here's a great tip for newbies. Take a little time reading the boards before posting. Why? Because you will see there are already alot of questions answered already and so that you can get a feel for the members here. You can get to know the personalilties. And you wont make a horses rear end out of yourself when posting.

Reply by hcampersFL on 3/28/06 9:38am
Msg #109030

What Nerve!!

YOU talk about others and how they reply to questions on this board??? Why don't you pay a few dues and get some experience under your belt before you start slinging mud?

Mistarella has given tons of great advice on this board and been very helpful to many notaries including "newbies".

I for one will not knowingly answer any of your questions on this board. You don't deserve my time.

You sound like a spoiled brat. If you want to say thank you for the help and then proceed to bash someone that has some time on the pond ZIP IT!!

Beverly

Reply by LilyMD on 3/28/06 9:45am
Msg #109035

Re: What Nerve!!

I don't see you getting any better response to your questions than some of the others who have chosen to be insulting and unprofessional. You just cooked your goose.

Reply by FlaMac on 3/28/06 9:42am
Msg #109032

You make some good points but..

it might be better not to single out any one person. It will put you in a group that I doubt you want to be associated with...I agree with you about "know-it-all's". They like to interpret things for others and never admit when they are incorrect. They also tend to be very long winded Always consider the source and just ignore the nonsense. Life is too short to be bothered with mean-spirited people.

Reply by hcampersFL on 3/28/06 9:49am
Msg #109038

Fla Mac

For once I think I will take your advice.

"Always consider the source and just ignore the nonsense."

Beverly

Reply by notary_nc on 3/28/06 9:56am
Msg #109045

Re: You make some good points but..

Everyone has a right to their opinions and just like I said before- For those who do offer real advice - I am grateful. I'm even grateful for those who don't have much to say-- It makes it easier to weed out busybodies. My post was not meant to be HATEFUL- it was a response to what someone wrote when I merely said Thank you. What's hateful about posting a response? Calm Down. I did read Mistarella's reply thread and I accept his/her explanation. But, I WHOLEHEARTEDLY stand by my posts. For those who choose not to be helpful- that's your biz- there are plenty of Notaries out here who are willing! For those who have recieved valueable advice from Mistarella- go for it- to each his own. Thanks for the input though- It's nice to know that this "brat" is worth your double exclamation points-- THANKS FlaMac I Knew "someone" who get it!

Reply by SarahBeth_CA on 3/28/06 9:57am
Msg #109046

Re: You make some good points but..

FlaMac go back and read the original thread. It's only one page back. Her points blew goats because she didn't take the time to read and understand that she was replying to a reply that had nothing to do with her.

Hey newbie here's some good sound advice which will be backed up by several past threads if you decide to do a little reading. FlaMac has consistantly given out bad advice. Advice so bad that if followed could result in one not only loosing thier commission but facing prosecution. Now this hasn't happen in the last couple of days but in my book and many others she has zero credibility. Then she has the nerve to say consider the source.

So you made a mistake. Own up to it and move along. There's a great deal of great information here. And in time you will find yourself agreeing with and understanding Mistarella's comments. Good luck in you new endevor, place your previous posting ferver into a drive to market and you'll be on your way to success.

Reply by notary_nc on 3/28/06 10:06am
Msg #109048

Re: You make some good points but..

Thanks Sarah- but at the time I composed my new thread- Misterella had not posted yet. So I took the words for what they were. Again- I stand by my post and appreciate all the feedback. I agree that there is a lot of info here and will indeed read previous posts. You must agree though, when you are new to the threads you're not sure where to look and simply asking a questons and saying thanks for the advice should not constitute people sending you hate mail ! (giggle) THANKS THOUGH!!

Reply by SarahBeth_CA on 3/28/06 10:27am
Msg #109056

Re: You make some good points but..

*****when you are new to the threads you're not sure where to look and simply asking a questons and saying thanks for the advice should not constitute people sending you hate mail ! (giggle) THANKS THOUGH!!*****

In regards to a thank you there was no hate mail so I'm not going to address or worry about that. In regards to asking questions I'm sure you noticed that there's a big box that explains the search procedure when starting a new thread, yet time and again people don't bother to read it and ask things like "what do I charge?" (which is directly addressed in the box) which has been done over and over again. So no I can't say I must agree with you. No I wouldn't send hate mail but I will certainly address the unwillingness to read the important notice and follow it before posting.

Now the best tip. Use the search function and go to post 33325 and read the whole thread. If you do you'll know why I said the "best" tip.

Reply by Korey Humphreys on 3/28/06 9:50am
Msg #109041

"For Mistarella and those "old heads". . ."


Hey newbie from NC.... keep writing, I think you'll be a respected member in no time! It's posts like this that cause some "hurtful" remarks to newbies. It's not even that they're "hurtful" it's that they're straight to the point. If you can't hack a couple words from people, then maybe you shouldn't be posting here.

Every day somebody comes on this board and writes messages that have already been discussed countless times. I hate seeing the posts about SOX. For cripse sake do a small search and you will find your answer! It gets old, and I'm surprised you don't see that (oh wait! you're a newbie).

You have to understand that most of the time the "old heads" aren't rude at all. They're telling you to do a search and learn for yourself. Nothing is going to be handed to you. If you're this upset over a post, then maybe you need to deal with the real world and never post this nonsense here again! IMO

Finally, I think your best bet would be to change your screen name and start fresh.

Reply by notary_nc on 3/28/06 10:01am
Msg #109047

Um Korey- I live in the real world and do not get upset by words on a screen. I don't Cyber run either. I am proud to be new and don't need "respect" from "cyber friends". I never called anything "hurtful" becaseu wors on a screen don't. Everyone is entitled to thier opionion and a message board is a forum for that. Mistarella's remarks were not "straightforward". If his cooments had been they could not have been misconstrued. My screen name will remain the same, but thanks for reiterating my point! Gotta luv it!

Reply by Korey Humphreys on 3/28/06 10:16am
Msg #109049

You wrote: "I never called anything "hurtful" becaseu wors on a screen don't. . . If his cooments had been they could not have been misconstrued."

Thanks for reiterating my point on LEARNING.

(hey no one is perfect, here's a prime example. I too make mistakes)



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You wrote: "I am proud to be new and don't need "respect" from "cyber friends"."

So if the above is true, why are you so concerned about posting here on NotRot. I have made quite a few "cyber friends" because of NotRot. I speak to them a couple times a day via email.

All I'm saying is that if you want to be taken seriously here by the experienced "old heads" then I suggest you sing a different tune. That's all. I'm not out to get you or help you reiterate any points.

If you ask a question that hasn't been asked 1,000,000,000,000,000,999 times, then I'll be more then happy to answer. Just remember to read the board and learn.

Reply by Shannon McKnight on 3/28/06 10:26am
Msg #109055

LOL touche' ! But, Korey-- please don't mistake my posts as "concern". THEY ARE WORDS ON A SCREEN. if you have made good friends here - FANTASTIC! That works for you so go for it! Nobody knocks you for it. But I actually SPEAK to my FRIENDS in person. Not via email. I did not post to get respect - I've earned that from people I can actually touch- nor did I post to make friends- got plenty of them. I posted to get an opinion about something and someone emailed me with a WONDERFUL answer. THAT'S ALL. It is highly unlikely that you could be "out to get me.." this is a message board not a mafia hit list. (giggle). Keep your sense of humor. And if I ask a question that has been asked over a billion times, do me and yourself a favor-- IGNORE ME! By the ay- I am learning SOOOO much by the reponses I'm getting-- keep 'em coming! In the words of Lenny Bruce, "..I'll be here all week.."

Reply by AngelinaAZ on 3/28/06 11:52am
Msg #109067

I just bet you will!!!

I just bet you'll be here... gleaning information from the experienced 'old heads'... not giving anything constructive back to the board.

Quit acting like you couldn't give a crap what people write.. If you didn't... you would have left it alone or would have just responded to Misti on the other thread instead of starting a new one to MAKE SURE that everyone read your responses. Give me a break!!

Reply by MistarellaFL on 3/28/06 11:28am
Msg #109065

An apparent miscommunication

Here is my post in response to your earlier tantrum. You may want to be certain of what you are posting before you post.:

I wasn't referring to you, notary_nc
Posted by MistarellaFL of FL on 3/28/06 8:44am
Msg #109016 from logged in user

When I was speaking of a sense of entitlement, I was responding to Kelly's post:

"Mistarella - You were complimented Again on another board!
Posted by Kelly M Robertson of CA on 3/27/06 7:33pm
Msg #108914 from logged in user
And I agreed with that poster as well. Smart call. "


Sorry you misunderstood, and I am glad that even though it wasn't my colleagues advice (not mine) that was effective for you, you are getting your fee. I had so many people asking for that specific advice on collections, I thought you were one of them. This particular other poster we were referring to on another forum was expecting advice and support on what I consider a ridiculous situation, and that is what I was specifically referring to. Peace to you, and good luck.

Reply by Kelly M Robertson on 3/28/06 2:57pm
Msg #109106

Re: An apparent miscommunication - Yikes! Yes!

You've clearly misunderstood Mistarella's reply to my post! Sorry this happened, Mistarella

Reply by MistarellaFL on 3/28/06 5:24pm
Msg #109156

Re: An apparent miscommunication - Yikes! Yes!

Reminds me of cheryl/co and linda/il on GMN or whoever she is. Eerily................