Posted by Stamper_WI on 5/3/07 10:16am
Msg #188586

Speaking of collections

I had a lot of problems collecting on this one!

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18466753?GT1=9951

Reply by JS_MD on 5/3/07 10:25am
Msg #188587

I always find it amazing when I call to set an appointment for a household w/ a stay at home Mom and they sound so frazzled and tell me 30 times how busy they are. Give me a break........what would they do if they had to work fulltime, take care of the kids, house, and spouse. I find it difficult not to laugh right in their face when they tell me how busy they are.
All of us working women do all that an MORE!

Reply by bfd110_IN on 5/3/07 10:36am
Msg #188589

Now why is it always the woman???

I work 2 full time jobs plus clean house and make sure supper is always ready (the days I work fire meals are always prepared for the family just made at the station) take care of 2 yo until I can switch with wife or drop him off at in-laws to do closings... Now it isnt always about the woman. Now I am going to duck as I go throw another load into the laundry and take away my stamp that now has been used to notarize the living room couch.

Reply by Michelle_KY on 5/3/07 10:38am
Msg #188590

LOL! Reminds me of the "Mr. Mom" song...and movie. n/m

Reply by JS_MD on 5/3/07 10:40am
Msg #188591

Bfd/ your wife is a lucky woman n/m

Reply by LkArrowhd/CA on 5/3/07 10:45am
Msg #188594

Re: Now why is it always the woman??? BFD

You are so right, absolutely dad is just as capable and as important. My hubby was always a long commuter and drained by the time he got home but his role was equally as important and still is.

Reply by LkArrowhd/CA on 5/3/07 10:42am
Msg #188593

Re: While I think the stay at home can be extremely busy

24-7, it may be more difficult for them to stick to a schedule with the constant interruptions. A stay at home mom works very hard and for many notaries that do both actively, doing the stay at home mom and running to notary assignments, I applaud you all. You would absolutely need to be flexible to say the least, drop it all and then shift to professional notary at a moment's notice.
My kids are grown and gone but I recall when they were wee ones and even leaving the them home with dad when they were sick and you had to go to work was difficult.

Reply by Stamper_WI on 5/3/07 11:18am
Msg #188603

Well now

That did get a response! You are all preaching to the choir!

In 1989 I started over with $13 and 3 kids. The ex would clock in a total of 32 hrs a month and only took them overnight if I was in the hospital. Not my idea! This was joint custody!
Big garden, heat the house and water with wood heaters. Looking back I am amazed at what I was able to pull off. They are grown now. And yes I have the payoff of love and appreciation but no matter how creative you are, life hands you contingencies and they usually come with a bill. Unfortunately, the wages you actually earn rarely cover the value.
But then I wanted children. Its a given that having children is expensive.

Reply by MaineNotary on 5/3/07 11:45am
Msg #188610

"All of us working women do all that an MORE!"

I find that unlikely working women "do more." Twenty four hours = a day.

For the first four years of my daughter's life, I was home and my day went from 6:30am until around 11pm. After the divorce, I returned to the work force. I've worked for 40 years. I also observe my daughter and two grandchildren (a colicky four month old and an active four year old). She is a former school psychol and picks up evals, working on an on call basis with PDD children. When she occasionally gets a case and works in the evening (husband stays with the kids), the laundry doesn't get done along with other chores she ordinarily reserves for night time when the children are sleeping. Her day? FULL FULL FULL. It takes quite some time to get two young children out of the house and into the car and outta the car and into wherever. Simple grocery shopping becomes a half-day project. Factor in meals, naps, various activities (swim lessons, kid-nastics, library, soccer), housework, and you catch yourself coming and going. You cannot do all this if you are working full time.

If you think you accomplish as much as a working mother as one who stays home, you are WRONG. You are putting X amount of hours outside of your home so X amount of hours doing whatever in the home are lost. Do the math. There are 24 hours in the day....

I can't imagine why YOU can't imagine WHY a SAHM is busy with 1-? children, pets, a home to take care of, errands to run, bill to pay, etc.

Reply by DCD/MI on 5/3/07 12:03pm
Msg #188613

Don't forget that a SAHM gets very little sleep. I am only focusing on Notary work now since my 5 1/2 month old daughter was born (I'm a Registered Nurse and find PT notary work and staying home with my baby very rewarding right now). I also have 2 other children. Last night I got exactly 3 1/2 hours of sleep and my 6yo daughter is home today too, since she only goes to school 3 days a week. If a mom gets a nap it's pure luxury. Don't forget it's not just about housework, the kids need play, meals and attention and make constant messes, they always want you to get things, do things, find things, etc. the baby poops up her back and needs a changing and a bath (already done today........second outfit since she spit up all over the other one....). But hey, I got to eat breakfast at 12:00! My son will come home and let's hope the baby isn't into a really great nap by the time I have to take him to baseball practice at 4. OK flame away if you must I've had experience being a working mother and a SAHM and for me it's actually easier for me to work, but best for my kids to stay home right now.

Reply by MelissaCT on 5/3/07 1:09pm
Msg #188628

Don't forget not getting to shower until ??? n/m

Reply by christiSocal on 5/3/07 2:51pm
Msg #188651

My youngest is now 18, but back in the day, most of the time I was a SAHM. Occasionally, I would get a part time job for a short time. It would always amaze me, how much more I got done while working! Maybe being out of the chaos for awhile helps a woman to focus better? Still being a SAHM is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world. I wouldn't trade those memories for anything.

Reply by SueW/Tn on 5/3/07 4:07pm
Msg #188665

AMEN! MaineNotary

I wouldn't swap places with a "stay home Mom" for all the tea in China...been there and done that and it's too dang hard! They are miles ahead of me when it comes to total organization! I'm organized in my business only...everything else gets done when the mood hits me. The mom that stays home doesn't have that option, she's gotta get it all done so she can start over tomorrow! They have my respect and admiration!