Posted by Charm_AL on 5/19/07 8:59am
Msg #190920

children and signings...

ok, I'll admit I love kids...I have 4 and a step son....
However, I was booked to be at a local office most of the day yesterday and while on my second appointment, I was witness to a wild two year old destroying the water cooler, after the floor was flooded. Then he came into the office and proceeded to destroy the tv, but the finishing act was tearing down the blinds in the lobby after the signing. You want to know what the 'parents' did? NOTHING.....the office staff was babysitting this brat.
Unbelievable, I would have had that kid in the bathroom having a hand talk with his ass faster than he could turn his head!

Reply by Linda_H/FL on 5/19/07 9:25am
Msg #190922

Re: children and signings...LOL...

"I would have had that kid in the bathroom having a hand talk with his ass" - a mother after me own heart!!

I had a RESPA signing a couple weeks ago - sis-in-law is there with her daughter who kept interrupting - 45 minutes for a simple RESPA - don't you think my signing last Sunday (yes, Mother's Day!) was with the sis-in-law - AND THE KID AGAIN!!! Interrupting...whining...yada yada - and what got me the most was the parents catered to this kid!! I saw proof that that "sense of entitlement" we all talk about here starts really really young..

Reply by Bob_Chicago on 5/19/07 9:29am
Msg #190924

Unfortunately, in today's climate, if the parents had......

done much more that giving the kid a stern look, some
busybody would report them to the police.
I will personnaly attest that your clildren are very well behaved.
Hope that you didn't have to have too many "hand talks" to get
them that way.
Hope that all is well in 'bama

Reply by Charm_AL on 5/19/07 9:54am
Msg #190928

Re: Unfortunately, in today's climate, if the parents had......

yep I hear you all. I remember having a hand talk with my eldest in the bathroom of a restaurant once when she was 5. I don't believe that 'talking' always does the trick. I'm not into abuse but push me and watch out, actually, I'm the one thats in hand pain.
My youngest got put on the naughty step (according to The super Nanny) and that worked twice. My husband tried it while I was at a signing and she point blank told him - "NO, You get on the naughty step, I'm a bad mood!!!"

Reply by Bonnie_CO on 5/19/07 11:04pm
Msg #190992

Re: Unfortunately, in today's climate, if the parents had......

"done much more that giving the kid a stern look, some
busybody would report them to the police.
I will personnaly attest that your clildren are very well behaved. "

This is true Bob. The ironic part is, the holier than thou ones that call the cops over a parent using reasonable discipline on a child, are also the one's that bi*ch the loudest when kids are rowdy in a resturant.

Reply by cassiewi on 5/19/07 9:44am
Msg #190925

I hear you Charm

I was at one the other day. 3 1/2 year old, yelling, climbing on counters to get snacks, not asking for the snacks, interrupting. The broker was there and he was trying to keep her entertained but to no avail. I've gotten stricter since moving here, I took my daughter (10) and her friend to my sons(8) baseball game the other day. They were sitting behind the players on the bench, distracting them. I told her once to move into the open area, then I said it again, but sternly, the parents looked at me funny. Sorry but they're my children and when I say for them to do something, they better well do it or suffer the consequences. Our schools here are not in good shape because there is no discipline. I don't like having hand talks as you put it, but I will if I have to.

Reply by Rhonda Skansi on 5/19/07 10:02am
Msg #190930

Re: I hear you Charm

I had a nice hand talk with my 4 year-old daughter's a** at the Mexican restaurant for lunch yesterday, during our 3rd trip to the bathroom for misbehaving. I guess I should have that "hand-talk" at the first trip -as it seemed to work I have a feeling that the other patrons were glad that they could finally enjoy their lunch in a peaceful environment - I was

Reply by Lisa/IL on 5/19/07 12:38pm
Msg #190947

Children and signings


I did a closing a couple of months ago and the children were teenagers!
They interrupted to use one of the parents' cell phones "because mine died".
They interrupted asking what was for dinner
They interrupted again several minutes later asking when it would be ready?
They interrupted to ask the Mom about insurance information because of an auto accident a few days ago.

I finally told the couple that "we can have this completed in 10-15 minutes IF we are not interrupted again, but if that is not possible I can leave now".

Did I mention the 5 dogs?
The home was filthy. The dogs had chewed up the linoleum, yes chewed it!
I had to leave the signing and go straight to a meeting at the church. I had my family meet with clean clothes and a bag to put my others in.
Oddly enough, I walked out and thought - even as poorly behaved as the dogs were - they were better behaved than the children!!!

Gotta love what you do!!!!

Reply by BrendaTx on 5/20/07 2:17pm
Msg #191016

Re: Children and signings - - kids and dogs are part of the

home where we are working. We are a convenience to the people we service. In reality, we are probably an intrusion into the borrower's life and they might rather us not be in there seeing their nasty living quarters or unruly whackjob kids who they are obviously unfit to raise.

While signing a loan a couple of years ago I had a four year old crawl up on a dividing wall next to the table and rotate around to get the right angle, then he gleefully broke wind four inches from my face...on purpose. Then, "Did you like that?" No. Do not do it again. "Why nooo-ooot??" Fortunately the ape's mother got him down from his fart-firing perch before he could fire again.

Annoyances and interruptions are the norm between 5 and 7 pm in a home. Children, teens, husbands, moms and pets are all hungry, needing input from each other, and the appointment is a PITA for all concerned. I pretty much just choose not to let their dysfunctional stuff bother me. It's part of the territory.

When I leave those appointments I'm just glad that the chaos they live in is not my chaos. Close the door behind you and smile.

Reply by christiSocal on 5/19/07 3:19pm
Msg #190958

P.C.

"Hand talks" (I love that!)
They may not be "PC", but the world was a much nicer place and kids were better prepared for the real world, when hand talks were the norm!!!!!

Reply by Sylvia_FL on 5/19/07 5:14pm
Msg #190966

Re: P.C.

I loved this story!

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,273895,00.html

Should be more moms like this out there!

Reply by Cris_AR on 5/20/07 6:23am
Msg #190997

Re: P.C.

I like her attitude. I have gone to class with my Son for the day when he misbehaved, he was in 7th grade, he learned to limit his talking in class after that.

Reply by Cris_AR on 5/20/07 6:18am
Msg #190996

Unbelievable, I would have had that kid in the bathroom having a hand talk with his ass faster than he could turn his head!

I WAS drinking cofffee... I will have to admit I have never heard that one.
My boys were pretty wild however they knew how to act in public.
Many times over the past 15 years I have had to take them with me to work in the field (not notary related) and from day one they were taught how to act in public, my youngest one still mimics me with my "Ok, hands on your knees and zip the mouth for a moment".
I cannot concentrate with unruly unsupervised children, I do not even have the patience for some friends with children who get into everything while parents turn the other way or think it is "cute".