Sorry to hear that. I agree that being supportive is the best route. Sometimes our closest friends, or close family members, or even we ourselves can make bad decisions based on a wide variety of reasons. The tough call is when we, or they, feel the decision is the best one even in the face of harsh criticism or consequences.
Being supportive may help them make better future decisions. There is a huge difference in being supportive and enabling so there is also nothing wrong with making clear our views which you already have.
Sometimes the best action after the fact is no action, and the best words once spoken are no words, especially with family if you wish to keep a long-term peace.
I would send them something to help ease their pain and suffering. They will remember that when they get well.
I find it helpful to keep my humor. I made a bad decision yesterday to paint a couple of walls with an injured elbow. My wife called me and kindly reminded me to do this and that to help it heal. I mentioned that she forgot the most important thing. I repeated one of the lines below and we both laughed.
http://youtu.be/KChWF0mfRDw
Send this to your brother and make him smile! |
