"a select few who have taken this "cause" upon themselves & do a lot of p/m's. IMO stirring the pot"
Recall that the PM function is non-functional - so absolutely false on that count or any other medium for that matter. I’m too busy attending to my clients, my business and my family members for that, Marilynn.
This scenario has repeated itself ad nauseam for years and years on end and frankly is embarrassing to nearly all professional NR members.
There are myriad ways to express one's convictions without brutality, bullying, and eliciting a response from their victim such that they publicly state they wished they had not purchased a NR membership.
There is certainly no thought that dk needed a hero/rescuer. It’s that dk/all newbies and seasoned professional alike need to know that brutish behavior is not condoned by the silent majority. It would be shameful to NOT speak up in this instance.
When a member is treated so brutally they PUBLICLY state that they’re leaving the NR forum and cancelling their membership (see excerpt below), it needs to be addressed in the same manner – PUBLICLY. No cause is being taken on and no stirring of the proverbial pot is occurring or any other subversive objectives are at hand. Purely and simply addressing that treatment publicly and openly even if it means the bullies are going to gang up on me and attack me personally.
EXCERPT: Msg #574041 "I came to this site because I wanted advice not sympathy. Had I known that this site was a bashing, and put down of notaries, I wouldn't have joined. Your response was filled with lots of anger towards me as if I did something wrong to you personally." "Lastly, I do not want to have bad blood on this site because this is not what the site is for, all I wanted was a place to get advice from other notarial professionals."
It’s surprising that business owners who profess to be professionals would willingly support brutish and bullying behavior. It’s true that the social mores across the US vary from region to region; however, bullying is not acceptable or condoned.
This is similar in nature to a case of domestic violence wherein the witnesses choose to say nothing publicly and then are ‘surprised’ when the victim is found dead (in this case victim leaving the NR forum).
It’s long overdue to stop the justification for bullying and for each and every NR member to ensure that they’re not being brutish or bullying when posting to the forums.
Yes, please do remember to be kind to one another  but also remember that if someone is mean to you, then reciprocity may be the most appropriate response.
Tangentially, when my son was very young, another child would bite him every day at the daycare center and that child would be scolded, but every day that child would bite my son and others repeatedly. I explained to my son that when someone chooses to be mean to you and they’ve been scolded and told to stop, but choose not to stop the brutish behavior, then biting back (reciprocity) may be the most appropriate response. He understood and decided that he’d had enough. The next day when that child bit him, he bit the child back.
Interestingly, that child no longer bit ANYONE from that day forward. One can only surmise that until they felt the sting of it directly, they could not comprehend the pain they were inflicting.
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