I simply refuse to engage - I absolutely love the little adage that "you don't have to attend every argument you're invited to." It just doesn't ruffle me, I don't take it personally. While arrogance definitely pushes my buttons, I practice a little head-game with myself that I've done for so many years it's habit - I visualize my inner peace as something tangible, that I would certainly NOT pick up with my own hands and say "Here, excuse me, here - take this, it's my inner peace, no no really, I want you to have it. You're such a bully that I'm just going to give it to you." Not going to do that! In this respect, if I were to let them ruffle me enough that I just left - I wouldn't feel I was somehow retaining my self respect, but instead that I was allowing (participating, even) them to TAKE my self respect.
It's really not that hard to spend 30 minutes or an hour with someone acting like a 2 year old, especially if you've raised kids (and they're around a LOT longer, you get a lot of practice!) lol.
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